LOVE LANGUAGES
What being married for 25 years has taught us about Love Languages

Our love languages are totally different. Polar opposites. Plenty of couples experience this, it's very common. Ours couldn't be more different. And yet, after 25 years we're happier than ever.

I'm Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation. She's Acts of Service and Quality Time. We both appreciate Receiving Gifts a little. Love languages are how we give love naturally and how we want to receive love. And when your spouse has different love languages to you it's like learning to speak a different language.

After 25 years of marriage and lots of talking about and considering each other's Love Languages, here are 7 BIG things we've learned:

1. It's hard work but it gets easier

Learning to speak your spouse's love language is work. And the work seems constant, sometimes exhausting and occasionally infuriating but you get better at it the more you work at it.

And the effort you make is worth it! Because we're talking about how we receive love the efforts we make are not in vain.

So keep asking questions and giving helpful feedback. The more the both of you work at it the more loved you'll both feel.

Good feedback could be, "Hey babe, I love that you're trying to love me with gifts but instead of chocolate all the time I also love flowers too."

ACTION
Do one thing in their love language…

Take a moment and consider how your spouse feels loved. Do they appreciate touch, gifts, time spent together, a kind word or something done for them? Do something you think they’ll love.

DATE NIGHTS
Love Language Date Night

On your next Date Night theme it with love languages. Take this list of discussion questions with you:

• What do I do that makes you feel loved?

• What are our love languages? (download the Love Nudge app for an easy tool)

• What is one area I could improve on?

• What is one specific thing you’d love me to do that would make you feel loved?